When your nervous system calms, everything else changes.
Over time, our ways of coping become our ways of being. Reactivity, self-doubt, anxiety, perfectionism, hyper-independence - they all blur into who you believe you are. But they’re not you - they’re learned responses, and they can change. This work is about undoing those patterns, so you can live with more choice, alignment & self-trust.
Nervous System Regulation
Posttraumatic Growth
Trauma Healing
Somatic Practices
Authentic Self-Discovery
Nervous System Regulation Posttraumatic Growth Trauma Healing Somatic Practices Authentic Self-Discovery
You learnt how to be
in the world you grew up in
What we learned long ago continues to shape our present.
If you look like you have it all together, but inside everything takes effort, you’re in the right place.
You might find yourself constantly monitoring your reactions, your tone, your impact on others; replaying conversations and moments long after they’ve past; feeling guilty when you rest yet overwhelmed when you don’t; or living with a low-level anxiety that rarely allows your body to fully settle. This all makes sense, and here, you can find new ways to be.
Learning to be - with connection, awareness and understanding
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Reconnect with Your Body
Learn to notice and work with your body as an ally. Calm your nervous system, tune into its wisdom and discover how your body can guide you toward ease and presence.
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See Your Patterns with Curiosity
Explore old habits and reactions without judgment. With self-compassion and insight, increase your awareness around why your patterns arise, and learn how to respond differently in daily life.
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Discover Why Your Patterns Make Sense
Learn why your responses make perfect sense given your history and experiences. Recognise that what you do to protect yourself is understandable - and experience how this insight opens space for choice and change.
Change that is grounded in the present
This work doesn’t ask you to relive your history. Instead, it focuses on how earlier experiences show up in the present - in your reactions, relationships, nervous system and inner world. By understanding these patterns as they happen, you can meet life with more clarity, self-awareness and choice, and begin responding differently in real time.
Understand how early life experiences shape your reactions, habits, thoughts, emotions, nervous system & behaviours.
Learn simple, effective practices for emotional regulation, build internal stability & begin to feel at home in your body.
Discover practical techniques that lead you to authentic, aligned decisions.
Learn to set clear, healthy boundaries for more fulfilling relationships
Develop self-compassion as a guiding force in your healing and growth.
The Courses
Group Journeys for Healing & Growth
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For women: Learning How to Be
A transformative, six-month journey of exploration, expansion and growth. Understand and transform patterns shaped by early experiences, regulate your nervous system, and move toward lasting, authentic change.
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For women: Restoring Safety in Being - Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse
A growth-oriented journey to explore and shift the lasting impacts of childhood sexual abuse. Over nine-months, you’ll be guided toward deeper understanding, self-compassion and a calmer, more regulated nervous system in a safe, supportive space.
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For men: Learning How to Be
A transformative, six-month exploration for men, offering tools and practices to address complex trauma, regulate the nervous system and build a stable foundation for growth. To learn more, join the waitlist, and be the first to know when enrollment opens.
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For men: Restoring Safety in Being - Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse
A powerful nine-month group program for men. Compassionately understand the impacts of abuse, regulate your nervous system, and move towards healing and growth within a growth-focused group. Join the waitlist too be the first to know when enrollment opens.
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What is ‘complex trauma’, and does it apply to me?
Complex trauma refers to the lasting changes to our inner world, nervous system & relationships that can result from early instability, unpredictability or disruption. It includes not only major traumas like abuse or neglect but also subtler “little t” experiences, such as the emotional climate of childhood, parental responses to stress, and the quality of our early attachment relationships.
about us
The Vision Behind This Path:
Dr Zoe Vilenica
My heart is all about sharing how we heal and grow from complex trauma. As a psychologist of 20 years, and a survivor myself, I’m committed to helping you understand your patterns, discover your worth, and walk the lifelong path of healing with clarity, compassion, and the courage to unfold into who you truly are.
Complex trauma impacts every aspect of our lives, from how we see ourselves to how we relate to others. This article explores what complex trauma is and how it shapes our experiences.